Papa B
Hear, my son, your father’s instruction
As parents we sometimes over spiritualize our children’s actions while at the same time not applying the same spiritual understanding to our daily life. Let’s take the simple phrase “I just want to get what I deserve.”
Simple enough.
If we as God fearing parents ever heard that phrase escape the lips of one of our children, we would immediately expound upon the need for grace and how much we have been forgiven and therefore we should always show mercy to others and that we should always turn the other cheek because Jesus paid the ultimate price for us and we should not be like the ungrateful servant who received pardon from much but won’t forgive a little debt and look what happened the children of Israel when they complained — it didn’t work out for them did it– so we should forgive others because as we forgive we are forgiven because that’s what Jesus said! Amen, stand and sing.
Then we get in the car and drive somewhere.
I think one of the hardest parts of parenting is living out your faith in front of your kids. It is a humbling experience to hear God preaching to me in my own voice as I “train up my child”.
Proverbs 3:6 says to acknowledge God in all your ways and HE will make your paths straight. I am grateful for his help.
What kind of father are you?
I’ve read quite a few blogs and articles about fathers raising their children. One of the scriptures that gets tossed about a lot is from Deuteronomy 6:7 and I think that’s great. I love that scripture and I have personally opined on it at great length. I think it is very important to integrate your faith into every aspect of life so that training your children in the ways of the Lord are easy and fluid, but I fear there may be more.
I ran across a scripture that totally changed my heart on training my children. I used to say, “My job is to show them Jesus and lead them to life with Him.” Sounds good, right? Very noble, quite fatherly, and very short sighted.
Take a look at the book of Judges. Look at Judges 2:10. Here is what’s going on: Joshua has led Israel in taking the promised land. He and that generation died, then their children died, then THEIR children “did not know the LORD or the work that he had done for Israel.” What’s up with that?! That would be like my grandparents landing at Plymoth Rock and I somehow missed knowing about it. Here’s my take on what happened.
The generation that took the land taught their children to obey the form of worship. That next generation performed worship without fully understanding why so what they passed on to their children was ritual without meaning and that generation opted to drop the whole mess all together.
So where does that leave me? I need to train my children to train their children. I want for my daughters to love God so much that they want their children to love God so much that they want their children to love God… I don’t want my kids to “go to church” because that’s what the family does. I want them to desire Christian fellowship. I don’t want them to tithe just because I said so, but because God is worth of their first fruits.
So, what kind of father are you?